Wassup!

My 28th birthday just happened in November so I thought I would collect all the knowledge and new experiences I’ve gained in 2019… and make a video about it!

My younger self was painfully awkward, extremely shy, doubtful about everything, and meek. When I was a teenager, life felt unpredictable because I just wasn’t sure who tf I was. So here it is – 28 things that I would say to my younger self.

And I have a questions for you too, readers – what words would you use to describe your younger self? Tell me one thing you would say to that child if you could. 🙂

  1. Cash is KING. Don’t spend more than you earn.
  2. Stop trying to be so perfect. Instead, aim for EXCELLENCE.
  3. When in doubt, breathe. When you feel anxiety, breathe. When you’re stressed, breathe. Breathing is so good for you.
  4. There is nothing glorious about not sleeping well, not eating well, or not hydrating well. Take care of your self, because no one’s going to do it for you.
  5. Self Love does not equate to “treat yo-self.” It’s called discipline – you need to wake up every day, do the tedious, tough things that you don’t want to do in the moment, but will make you feel better in the long run.
  6. Be more mindful of how you spend your money.
  7. Nothing external can fill up the emptiness. Fill your mind and soul with good books, music, interviews of inspiring people, friends, stories, etc.
  8. Being grateful every day, especially in the low moments, will help keep the depression away.
  9. Therapy is the bomb dot com.
  10. Having mentors in my life, changed me. Molded me. And I’m thankful for it. Find people better than you, and learn from them. Be grateful for them.
  11. There is power in saying no.
  12. It really does get better. Hang in there, and keep chugging along.
  13. Life is short. Have fun.
  14. It is absolutely okay to let go.
  15. Having a social life is so important. Us humans are not meant to be loners for too long – we need to interact and support one another.
  16. If you want something, put your head down and just get to work. Stop worrying about all the small details. The longer, more consistently you grind, the better the outcome.
  17. Everything that happened when you were a minor was not your fault.
  18. Everything that you chose to do in adulthood, is. You are your own responsibility. It can be burdensome, but once you embrace it, it’s exhilarating to know you can choose your own path. And own up to your own mistakes.
  19. Anyone who tries to take away your dignity, your choice as a woman and as a human being… cut them out of your life.
  20. Don’t wait for other people to make the first move. You can be the first one to reach out too – say hello first, call them first, ask them out to dinner. People are just as hesitant as you are about rejection.
  21. Nothing ever stays secret. Be mindful of how you speak of others and yourself. Words really do cut deep into the bone.
  22. Working out is so important. It keeps the depression and anxiety away, makes you more confident, more tolerant of everyday life’s BS, and empowers you to push on. Keep being consistent with it, it’s one of the best investments you can make towards yourself.
  23. Before you buy something, always ask yourself, “Do I really need it?”
  24. Having lots of materialistic things is not sexy. Having a fully funded ER savings, an IRA, and no debt IS.
  25. Don’t read books you have no interest in, just because it was on some bestseller’s list. Read what piques your curiosity.
  26. Life feels better when you stop pretending to be someone you’re not.
  27. Just because you shout louder doesn’t mean people are going to listen to you. Speak quietly, diplomatically. Explain your point of view instead of assuming everyone should automatically understand it.
  28. There is no version of success, so stop trying to fit into this cookie-cutter version that’s not going to make you happy. Create your own version of success.