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#feelingGrateful

"When I started counting my blessings, my entire life turned around." 
-Willie Nelson

 

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! 2018 is almost over, can you believe it?

I started going to therapy almost five years ago because I was so unhappy with myself. One of the many exercises that my therapist taught me was to start a Gratitude Journal. It has helped me tremendously on how to always count my blessings, and even when shit really does hit the fan, there’s still an extra (sometimes very tiny) reason to still be grateful.

It has helped me to become much happier by reminding me of the abundance, not the deficiency, in my life.

So today, I’m sharing my three reasons for why I’m happy. Please list your own reasons in the comments, I’d love to hear yours!

  1. My Content Creating Gig. I’m thankful that I have a side gig where I can be creative and put out ideas. I’m also thankful for a 100 subscribers, haha. Hopefully it’ll continue to grow! I’m hoping to be more consistent this coming new year.
  2. My family, friends, and loved ones. Without their support, understanding, patience and love, I wouldn’t be where I am.
  3. My Self. I don’t think humans give themselves enough credit at times. I’m grateful for my resilience, discipline and strength to move forward in difficult situations.
  4. I’m grateful for a beautiful year. 2018 has been good to me; I’m reached many milestones this year. I’m even more hopeful for next year. 🙂

cheers,
Alice.

10 Tips to Fight Burnout

Hello again!

This time I created a new video about how to tackle burnout.

Most of us have experienced burnout. It’s the last few weeks before school final exams or a humongous work deadline is approaching… and instead of feeling pumped to take on the challenge like you usually do, you’re suddenly dragging your feet. You don’t feel inspired like you used to. No matter how much you sleep/rest, there’s no relief. All you feel is a sense of dread.

Burnout is so REAL. Life can feel overwhelming and the last thing you want to do is execute self-care on yourself. These are my ten tips on how I push through the fatigue, lethargy, the lack-of motivation so I can rejuvenate my body, mind, and soul. They’re nothing mindblowing; it’s all stuff you’ve probably read online or heard from others. But sometimes, it’s good to have a nice reminder. 😉

On a side note, this video took three tries to film, haha. *hotmess*

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TIPS MENTIONED IN VIDEO:

  1. Hydration: When in doubt, just chug some water down. When I’m going throughout my day, I kid you not, I literally forget to drink water. And what a hindrance dehydration can be! You can’t focus, you’re constantly tired, and you feel even less productive.
  2. Get some good sleep: When I don’t get enough rest, I start wishing I was six feet under and never have to get up another day in my life.
    However when I do rest enough, I feel like I can handle the entire world; my coping mechanism feels strong and I feel I can handle any challenges thrown my way.
  3. Hang out with good friends who GIVE BACK positive energy to you: If you’re an introvert like me, you probably find it very difficult to make time to hang out with others. But it’s important to surround yourself with people you really LIKE and whose company you really ENJOY. Acquaintances at school or work don’t necessarily count as friends. Hang out with those who elevate you and give back positive energy.
  4. Hot bath with Epsom salt: Need I say more? This is just the bomb dot com.
  5. Write it down/Journal: Especially when we’re stressed and burnt out, there are so many thoughts and obligations swimming through our heads that just existing feels overwhelming. Vomit your thoughts onto paper whether it’s doodling aimlessly, writing a long journal entry, listing all your thoughts, drawing graphs, etc. It helps to clear the brain department so you have clarity on what your next goals are.
  6. Practice your favorite hobby – go back to the things you love!: When we’re burnt out, we’re in survival mode and forget all the small activities that bring us so much joy.
    Take a break and practice your favorite hobby. Yes, life involves working hard. On the other hand, also remember that there’s nothing wrong with having fun; in fact, it’s necessary to reward ourselves so we live out happy lives.
  7. Remember: This Too Shall Pass: When I was a teenager, my emotions were a hot mess. I remember feeling sad and thinking this was how I was going to feel for the rest of my life (sidenote: not true, btw).
    Now that I’m an adult, I know that in life there are no plateaus – there are many valleys and peaks. Even during the difficult moments, remember that This Too Shall Pass. You got this. Everything is going to be okay, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
  8. Choose to respect yourself: This one is a BIG ONE for me because when I’m feeling unhappy, I immediately go into a victim state-of-mind. I do pinpoint out the problem (which is good), but instead of taking charge and trying to fix the problem I end up taking a backseat in my own life. I start waiting for others to approach me, validate me, recognize me, etc. And while I’m in my ‘Woe-Is-Me’ state of mind, I feel resentment and beat myself up mentally.
    This is so unhealthy. Choose to respect yourself. Decide to go the difficult route of affirming yourself, validating yourself, and fixing your own problems. Don’t wait for others to save you. Take responsibility for your own life.
  9. Exercise: Endorphins are good for you! The hardest part is just entering the gym; once you’re there, it’s all good stuff!
  10. Unplug: Be in the moment: Turn off the phone, computer, TV, etc. Go outside, be with nature, and be in the moment.

Hope this helps you guys out.

cheers,
alice.

Nature Visit: Huntington Library

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To keep my promise to be more in touch with nature, I went out another adventure to the Huntington Library. I can’t believe I’ve lived in Los Angeles my entire life and I’m just visiting here for the first time.

Ugh, it was so beautiful!! And what a treat to just walk through all the different botanical gardens they have. My fiance and I ended up staying for five hours; I think we walked at least six miles just meandering through all of the gardens. My favorite had to be the subtropical gardens. ❤

I brought my camera to capture the many moments I enjoyed. It was my first time using my camera for something other than makeup tutorials, lol…

007A little creek with flowers growing nearby.

004Near the Japanese botanical gardens. The bamboo was amazing!

008DUCKY!!!!

006Waterrrrr

009The sun was beaming down on us when we visited Huntington Library. The trees stood out so vividly in the sunshine.

010The reds and the greens ❤

003Sunnies and a hat to keep the sun away.

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All different shades of pink and reds!

002Shadows.

 

012Leaves shining under the sunshine.

 

I felt so replenished and happy after my trip. I’ll definitely be going back there in the next couple of weeks. Where do you go to be with nature?

cheers,
-alice

 

Key to happiness? Gratitude.

Hey guys! For those of you who celebrate Turkey Day – HAPPY BELATED THANKSGIVING! Let’s all take this as a reminder to be thankful 365 days out of the year, not just a couple days. 😉

My life is definitely not perfect, but compared to a couple of years ago, I’m doing a lot better. Back then, I wasn’t straying from the path getting distracted hardcore partying, drinking, etc.; instead, I was on the opposite end of the life spectrum. I was trying way too hard to be perfect with EVERYTHING.

So here I was on this self-destructive journey where I would try to work really hard in short bursts of motivation and energy. Little did I know that life isn’t a race, it’s truly a marathon. After a couple of months I would burn out, crash, and have to reset. It became a repeating pattern. I felt like I couldn’t even stop to smell the roses, look up at the sky, or take a deep breath in; it always felt like I was running against the clock.

I am now trying to break that bad habit by keeping a journal. It has pushed me to slow down in life and give me time to reflect on all the things I do have…instead of always focusing on what I don’t have.

Just three things that I’m grateful for. On bad days, I’m merely grateful that I have the knowledge that ‘this too shall pass’. On good days, I’m grateful for everything – that I’m alive, that I got to see the sun, drive around in my beautiful car, etc.

In addition, because I can have a defeatist attitude at times, I write down three things I accomplished that day. It can be the simplest of tasks, such as: I woke up early today! I washed the dishes. I went grocery shopping instead of eating out. Or it can be big things: I finally turned in that document I’ve been working on for weeks. I paid off all my debt. I forgave someone who really hurt me in my life.

Sometimes there’s no better cheerleader than yourself. It’s so healthy for our souls when we step back and are grateful; it’s also very healthy to give yourself a mental pat on the back.

Do you keep a gratitude journal? How do you battle your own blues in your life? 😉

Cheers,
Alice